Rule violations/infractions/deleted posts

PLEASE find a way of informing users when you just out and delete their posts — I'm pretty sure somebody had my "your gay" post (the first one) in the white iPhone thread deleted, despite its obvious good-naturedness and its subsequent salient and relevant content, and I never even heard about it until I happened to notice it was missing.

In fact, I'm still not sure I'm not just imagining things.

What good is administering "punishment" for transgressing some sort of guideline when the user never even knows about it?