Adding to circles on Google Plus

So I'm a bit confused right now. I keep getting e-mails saying so and so has added you to their circles but when I check on the circle page under "who added you to their circles" I only see my cousin. I also have a page that I run and it seems some of those people who I got the e-mail about are on that. But also pages that I follow under my main account, I get e-mails saying they addded me to their circles, but its now showing up on the main page.

Can't we just approve who the hell follows us or adds us to their circles?