Flash Video Player - Why does it take so long to load?

Viewing any video page in Chrome and this is what I see:


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If I right click on the black I get the standard flash right click menu. Eventually the video player loads, but I am talking minutes later, like 8 or 9 minutes later.

Viewing the page on an iPad offers the MP4 video straight away, and I can watch it.

Is there a way to get my browser to NOT load the Flash video?

Is there a reason it takes so long to load?

I don't get this on any other page, just here :-(